Professional Online Tantric Massage Training Course with Certificate.

1-7. Tantric Massage PREPARATION 1: Meeting a client.

Tantric massage.
Tantric massage … preparation for the session with the client.

Martin:
We focus a little bit on some loose ends, the time before we start working with a client.
The comments don’t have any specific order as we just talk about a variety of things.
We invite you to ask questions. As an answer we can make another video or answer you specifically.

OK: Do we do therapy?

Maria:
No! This is not a form of therapy. It’s an opportunity to become more aware of what is happening in you.

Martin:
So, we do awareness work! Remember that we are not mental, mind based, verbal coaches. We work with techniques and technique based coaching.

There are three techniques; we use meditation, yoga and tantra. They are awareness techniques. Awareness is something that just happens. It comes up in you and you say wow. You didn’t plan it, you didn’t try to make it big or small, it came to you, it came over you, through you and you smile at it.

OK. We are practitioners. We share techniques with client. What do we do? How do we share with clients?

Maria:
We share “with” clients. Kind of being in this session with them. We are skilled about the techniques we use but we do this kind of together with to client. We do not apply something on them.

Martin:
OK, through sharing techniques with the client, we are in the same boat. We share with them, we go through the same aspects of this techniques and it all has to do with opportunities. What opportunities we hand to the client?

Maria:
I think there are beautiful opportunities to gain more insights about who is really there, who you are. The techniques we use are actually very simple. Once you are in it they are very simple as they highlight what is in you.

Martin:
We hand people opportunities to be reminded of what they have forgotten about themselves. Because people got so tied up in mind constructs, they have neglected to say wow. To have to say wow about what is happening in them, naturally and instinctually.

Let’s jump to something else but very related; the posture of the practitioner.

Maria:
The posture is extremely important because the last thing you want is not feeling comfortable in your posture because you need to be in yourself and feel good. What is the right posture? That you will learn in the course and once you have practiced it a few times, you will find out what works for you. Usually what works well is to be really close to the client. You don’t want to be far away. If you are close it’s much easier for you to move without stretching too much or bending your back too much. The rest is comes with the practicing teh tantric massage.

Martin:
So, we discuss this posture now, right after we have talked about the opportunities we give to the client. We do it because we are not giving them something. We are not doing therapy. Remember, therapy is; I’m paying you and you fix it. You are the therapist and I have the problem and you fix this. This is not what we do. People come to us with open hands and say I want to see more of my life. We as the practitioners, we are comfortable, we make sure we are comfortable, we are not trying to maintain a distance from them, we are with a client under the same circumstances, in the same opportunity sphere, we share with them.

Maria:
May I also say that’s why it’s so important if you become a practitioner, if you have that interest to become a practitioner, it’s so important that you have gained a lot of experience and have confidence in yourself. You have been through many things already, you have gained a lot of experiences yourself. The more skilled you become and the more comfortable, confident you become, to work with somebody like a client … that is extremely important to do.

Martin:
This one ties in really neatly. Let’s talk about the speed and the pressure of the strokes that we perform.
What is it like?

Maria:
We use very slow strokes. We touch softly. It’s actually extremely slow which means, if you are not used to this, it might be so slow that you can find it difficult and that might be really difficult in the beginning. It offers the client an opportunity as it’s something new as well.

The tantric massage does take time, that’s why we work many hours and not just one hour. (Meyotra sessions lasts a minimum of six hours, very seldom we offer three hour sessions.) It does take time to get into the slowness and the softness and that is one specific aspect, the slow / soft touch that we do in Meyotra.

Martin:
Slow and soft … we have a few places in the sequence of the massage where work hard and fast. We also have few places where we alternate fast / slow and hard / soft. We do it for a specific application as we don’t want the client, the mind, the brain to read what is exactly happening or to know this is this and now it’s that.

We want brain / mind to say; listen I have no idea what you are doing! I go for walk you do what you have to do and I will come and help you afterwards to sort out what has happened.

We suggest that you as the practitioner have a piece of paper and pen with you because the client might share something with you. You will ask a few questions,you will have a handful of opportunities where you will ask the client about themselves. We don’t ask how do you feel, what do you think or how is it going? We just say: Peter is ….? Yasintha is ….? They answer from somewhere deep there in them.

Do they believe you when you tell them afterwards what they have said?

Maria:
They are often so surprised and very often they don’t believe you. I think it’s because it’s a new approach, an unusual approach and they need some more time to process.

Martin:
I jump to something very different.
“The preparation”, the preparation of the room, the preparation of the client and the preparation of yourself.
Let’s start with the preparation of the room. One of my biggest thing always is, to make sure you have a room where it’s a little bit sound proof. We have 8 blankets on the top of each other behind the curtain to block out the sound. It’s not that serious as you have your music. You are doing something beautiful. So don’t be too sensitive about it.

My biggest thing is: “No clutter” …. please remove everything that looks like that you live there as well, that you sleep there as well, that you do your videos there as well. Just make it simple! Minimalistic!

What do you suggest regarding the preparation of the room?

Maria:
You mentioned already quite a lot of things. I also think it’s important not to have any clutter. Somehow it also gives you a clean space as you don’t want to be distracted by other things. One other very important thing is the room temperature. It should be warm, at least 27 degree Celsius. Make really sure, long before the client is coming, that the room is warm. Clients cool down a lot during the session and for them to relax a warm room is needed.

Make sure you heat it the previous day. The cold walls need time to absorb the heat. If you only start heating the room shortly before the client arrives, all the heat goes into the walls and the room doesn’t warm up. You can also use an electric blanket under the surface that you are working with. Don’t do it on a mattress, it’s fatal, rather blankets or or some spongy stuff like yoga mats. Futon mats really work well.

So, not too many things in the room. Lights, candles, incense … you can have it all but we suggest not too much. That is you personal preference. If you want to have a very spiritual place and you believe that helps, then go for it, feel free! Our experience is, the more things we have, the more people complain about something because their minds want to complain about something and they don’t interiorize the experience and they don’t find connection with themselves. There is always someone who doesn’t like your music, who doesn’t like your candles, who doesn’t like your incense and who doesn’t like the decoration. If its minimal, you actually save yourself a lot of mental frustration with clients.

On preparation; my other obsession is short nails, clean nails, have your own nails short and clean.
What is your obsession, what else?

Maria:
You need to prepare yourself. Something which is really important. Don’t plan anything else on the day. Make sure there is nothing else on your mind that should still be done. Take that day, that day is for you and for the beautiful work with the client. Before the client arrives, keep at least one hour free, where everything has been prepared, that you know everything is ready.

Then take that one hour and do what is good for you. Do your meditation, do whatever is good for you. Stay away from mind things, just have quiet time for yourself. That is the perfect preparation because you need to be centered in yourself and to be strong and to be yourself. If you do that then you are ready.

Martin:
Some clients come early and you can not tell them to go and sit somewhere for half hour. It just happens. We usually coach them not to come too early but sometime that will happen and at least you will be ready. Sometimes you have to give them a lot of directions because some people never find the place and others find it instantly. You might have to be spending time on the phone and if you are getting upset about them not finding the place, as you still have to do other things, as you are not prepared well and you aren’t ready. It is not worth it, take your time!

Be ready a minimum of one hour before you start working with the client. Get yourself sitting down, do your breathing, become yourself and be aware. Take your time and prepare yourself.

Something about the preparation of the client. We have sent them a lot of information during the booking process. We send information before and after they have paid. We have been coaching them about what it is all about. We have said all these things we wanted to say. We have shared it and we have talked to them about all they need to know.

We do not allow somebody to phone us and say they want to come for a session now. It doesn’t work like that. They write to us, we ask questions and we talk, we discuss, we find out what we want to know. Some clients take 18 months before they can see us. The other day we had a client client who took 13 years to see us. It can also be the previous day but we make sure the client understands what it is about … so, therefore we prepare the client well!

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